A wedding registry is basically a gift wish list that includes everything you hope to receive so that you can start you married life off on the right foot – materially speaking. If you and your fiancé are young (and new to the whole idea of wedding registry etiquette), then it may come as a surprise to you to find out that it really does matter how you handle your wedding registry. You don’t want to offend anyone and, even worse, you don’t want to turn anyone off of the idea of buying a gift for your big day. So, how do you handle your wedding registry with tact? Here are some wedding registry tips for young couples:
Let people know. Include your registry details on all of your wedding correspondence. That includes your wedding and reception invitations, shower invitations, and bachelor and bachelorette party invitations. The point is to make the information readily available to people so they don’t have to look for it. Also, you should brief everyone in your bride and groom parties, so that they can act as information intermediaries when the need arises.
What to avoid. Keep in mind that the purpose of a wedding registry is to help you set up your new, married home. That means you should leave personal items off the registry. Your wedding guests shouldn’t feel like they are being asked to purchase you a new wardrobe, and they will be insulted if they do. If you don’t know what to put on your registry, then ask yourself if the item can/will be dedicated to the new marriage, itself. No, that new bracelet and those tooth-whitening visits to the dentist don’t count.
Item pricing. It’s important that you include items from a variety of price points in your wedding registry. Don’t expect that all of your wedding guests will be able to spend hundreds of dollars on professional-quality cookware or gold-plated silverware. Be considerate of your guests’ pocket books when creating your registry.
Registry solicitations. So, you listed your registry on your wedding correspondence. That’s enough. Don’t shove it down peoples’ throats. If you constantly list your registry information on social networking sites and in emails, then it’s going to get very old, very quickly. Give people a break. Don’t beg them to buy you stuff. Remember that the purpose of a wedding registry is to help people decide on a wedding gift – NOT to sell them on buying you gifts.
There is a right way and a wrong way to create a wedding registry. Stay on the right side of wedding registry law with these helpful tips.
About the Author: Nicol Linebrink is a professional writer with a passion for wedding planning. She has also worked within the finance industry and enjoys working with accounting recruiting firms who are looking for new employees.
I disagree. I’m currently planning my wedding and have been reading a lot of wedding etiquette lately. Everything I’ve read has said NOT to put your registry information on your wedding invitation, and of all of the weddings I’ve been to I’ve never seen registries on the invitation. I think that’s much more likely to insult someone than putting a stray item on it. The point of the invitation is to tell the recipient that you care about them and want them with you when you celebrate, not to ask for gifts. What most people do is have a website set up for their wedding details, including directions, notes on dress code (more to give guests a sense of the level of formality than to tell them exactly what to wear), RSVP, information about the couple and the wedding party, and information about the registry. If you put the website address on your save-the-dates and invitations and include it anywhere else you are reminding people about the date (since it has a lot of pertinent information not related to the registry) then you will have your bases covered.
are you kidding me, how tacky and in your face.