This weekend I received a check that I’ve been anticipating. This check gives me the financial cushion to allow my dream wedding to come true. Now I’m second guessing whether the dream wedding is necessary.
I have an internal conflict within myself. I’m twenty years old, which means at times, I have a twenty year old mindset. However, I’ve always been mature beyond my years, allowing me to make mature decisions my peers wouldn’t even dream of making. I’m now thinking my dream wedding could be a waste of money, even on the budget I set.
Originally, I was upset at the possibility of not being able to wear my white dress, commit in front of a crowd, feed and impress my family and friends. Now I’m thinking “that’s not really me anyways!” I’m such a simple person; too much attention makes me uncomfortable. Spending lots of money makes me even more so.
I can get the same satisfaction doing something absolutely intimate without all the hoopla. I never wanted to have every single family member there anyways, but felt obligated. My marriage isn’t about others, but I discovered my wedding was.
I’m coming up with a different, budget wise way to announce my commitment to my soon to be husband. Why spend all that money for other people to have a good time? I now know that’s not me, and I’m happy I learned that.
I’ve been wondering the same thing myself lately.
We originally planned a park wedding at a free location and were planning for a nice picnic type outdoor reception.
but our plans fell through because we had issues with our officiant that was tied to the location. All I wanted was to tell my friends and family why I loved my fiance… and we couldn’t do that there… and to me, to be able to do that we were okay dropping $1500.00 more than we planned to move the entire wedding.
As I’ve been planning my wedding over and over again… and even changing locations… There are a lot of things I’d wish i’d done differently… but i’ve learned something very important. At your heart there are things you can’t just abandon… and that’s what you need to listen to.
Sure, we are inviting a few people we “have to” but my mom offered us 5k so we aren’t feeling out of sorts at one or two additional guests… that’s not something we mind at our heart… but just listen to your heart.
Hopefully you only marry once… focus on the memories, because those will last a lifetime and they don’t have to cost a fortune.
Can you have your wedding ceremony in city hall and wear the white dress anyway? That’s why my friends did. Sam