I’m starting a new series on the blog called Marriage Mondays where I discuss things I’m learning about marriage. More series to come including Wedding Wednesdays and Finance Fridays.
Hubby and I have been married for 3 months now, and obviously it hasn’t been completely scott-free. In the first week though, we were in utter and complete bliss. We were so in awe about our vows. They were so…emotional. We both talked about it and said how much we really meant it. Anyone who knows us knows we’re not a mushy couple at all. It mentioned honoring each other, supporting each other, and being a team. All of these things should be done for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do us part.
You hear those words throughout your entire life, especially as a little girl. I grew up on Disney movies and romantic comedies, so I was no stranger to the words in vows. But they’re so empty if you’re not saying them yourself. While we thought about how much those words meant to us that week, I thought about how permanent those vows are last night. Those are serious promises, that you make in front of your family and friends. So many people don’t heed these promises, and leave during the poorest and sickest moments. It really makes you think “Do I really want to be with this person for the rest of my life?”
We’ve been together for 4 years, and I know that’s not a long time when it comes to the many years we have ahead of us. Til death do us part; that can be a long time! In the age where divorce rates are more than half of all marriages, it can be intimidating. We’re going to go through a lot of things. Some will be amazing and bring us so much joy. Others will be devastating and will test our relationship. Can we handle this? Are we equipped? Will our love be enough?
My grandma brought up a really great point. We do have an advantage marrying so young: when you’re young, you can grow together. You’re willing to make more compromises and change over the course of years. When you marry older, you’re set in your ways and you’re more stubborn to changing things, even for your spouse. I look forward to using this as an advantage. This can include how we run our household, family traditions, and things we do as a couple.
I have no plan on getting a divorce, and neither does he, but there may be a time in our life where the conversation may come up. I, personally, would hate to break a vow that I made to him, and to God. This is a forever thing, not a “for now” type of commitment. We take it seriously, and we won’t be able to do it alone.
How seriously do you take your vows? Has the thought of going through the best of times and the worst of times with your spouse frightened you?
- Til debt do us part (benjamin-clark.com)
- ‘Til Divorce Do Us Part (socyberty.com)
- “Til death do us part, or until I get sick of you” (thespencerlawgroup.com)