So here we are with another celebrity marriage ending, well, rather quickly. This couple is actually beating out Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries with their 72 day marriage. This marriage, ending after only 41 days. Tragic. Football player Chad Johnson (or Ochocinco) and reality TV star wife Evelyn Lozada just wed on the 4th of July, and now they are in the process of getting a divorce after a domestic dispute that occurred over the weekend that resulted in Chad losing his job with the Miami Dolphins and the couple losing their reality TV show on VH1, Ev and Ocho.
I’m a bit irritated to learn of yet another divorce that many anticipated, but I tried to stay positive and hope for the best. Obviously, these circumstances are different from other divorces we’ve talked about. I’m still not quite sure what happened between Kim and Kris. Heidi and Seal just so happened to grow apart. Kobe & Vanessa (are they still together?) had to do with infidelity. However, domestic violence is never okay, and is definitely grounds to get out of a relationship.
However, I’m most irritated at the fact that this more than likely could have been avoided. Divorces are messy, and so are annulments. Why bother spending thousands on a wedding when you’re going right back to the courthouse the next month to get a divorce? You’re wasting your time and your money. Why bother?
It seems to me that people are in such a rush to get married without really thinking what goes into a marriage, what a marriage means, what a marriage requires. It’s couples like these who have little to no regard for the seriousness of a marriage that give it such a bad name. I honestly can’t blame people who are not interested in getting married for this very reason. However, I hope they don’t take these quickie marriages and divorces as a true example of what married life is about.
Now I suppose it’s different when celebrities are involved, but they’re human too, and they should be subject to the same things regular couples have to go through. Pre-marital counseling could go a long way to avoiding a lot of this ridiculous drama we’ve been seeing in Hollywood divorces. Being upfront and honest from the get go is another huge one. And most importantly: communication. Everyone goes through that “I’m so in love” phase, but they’re so quick to leave once that feeling goes away. To be honest, you shouldn’t be head over heels in love with the person you’re getting ready to marry, because that feeling is temporary and will go away. You’ll have a better idea of if your marriage can last after you get sick of them for a while.
For example, hubby and I had plenty of arguments and disagreements before we knew we were getting married. I had days where I was sick of him and he had days he was sick of me. But we knew what to expect, we knew how to work through those issues, and we knew it wouldn’t always be like that. Seems like a lot of these couples are getting in while the getting is good, which works for some things, but many times it doesn’t work in marriage.
It does suck being a celebrity and living out your relationship in the public eye. When things like domestic disputes happen, you can kiss privacy goodbye. Your photos and police report will be up on TMZ and gone viral via social media in less than 24 hour’s time. Then people are stalking your Facebook page and Twitter profile to see what you have to say, if anything. I can’t imagine going through that. But, so is what you sacrifice when you become a celebrity.
What do you think about all of these Hollywood divorces? Should celebrities take more time before getting married? Are they way too quick to divorce?