Becoming a parent happens differently for everyone; some people are married, some are single, some couples plan, others get a surprise. Every woman knows that the moment she is engaged the first question asked is ‘when’s the wedding?’ Every woman also knows that on her wedding day the first question asked is ‘when are you having babies’. Hold on folks, slow your roll. Some of us aren’t ready and here are a few reasons:
We hit the snooze at least 5 times before actually awaking from our slumber. Weekends are perfect for napping because of the peace and quiet and if at least nine hours of my day are not spent sleeping, then turn around and don’t bother me until I have.
My money is spent on attending happy hours, movies and taking a weekend trips with friends. Spending money on that cute dress you saw online is much more satisfying than paying for diapers and formula. Just sayin’.
I prefer to spend my time with my spouse rather and myself than anyone else. I am not willing to share my time with another human being that isn’t the two previous mentioned…unless of course, you are Channing Tatum.
I finally am hitting a stride in my career and plan on climbing that corporate ladder faster than Usain Bolt can run in the Olympics. I am just getting started and ready for that next pay raise.
Ha. Fat chance. I will watch your child for approximately as long as I can before he/she begins to cry. I love your child and adore them but I’d rather spoil them with hugs and kisses than supervise them.
Just because you aren’t ready to have kids, doesn’t make you a bad person. Some people are born ready and some aren’t. There is no rush to get a bun in the oven, enjoy your life as a married couple because when the time does come for little ones, life will change completely and for the better. Until then hit up that city festival, stay out late, sleep in and buy whatever you want.
Ken Myers as an Expert Advisor on multiple household help issues to many Organizations and groups, and is a mentor for other “Mom-preneurs” seeking guidance. He is a regular contributor of “senior care jobs”.
i am of the notion that most children are unplanned – the parents weren’t ready. anyhow unplanned does not mean unloved…all of these are good reasons but sometimes life interrupts…be prepared.
Hubby and I were both unplanned haha, so I wouldn’t be surprised if we had a baby before we were “ready”. Just like you said, unplanned doesn’t mean unloved. As long as people are willing to give the best to their children!