Wedding Wednesday: Does My Sister Have Cold Feet?

I’m starting a new series on the blog called Wedding Wednesdays where I discuss things that have to do with the wedding planning process. More series to come including Marriage Mondays and Finance Fridays.

My sister has been planning her wedding since, well, before me. I know for sure it’s been at least a year. Her wedding has been slated for Sunday, September 25 for a long time. I’m a bridesmaid, and our brother is a groomsmen. Our little sister was going to be in it too, but she didn’t get her dress in time. Well ladies and gentlemen, it’s September 7 and I think my sister has cold feet.

Let me back up a bit and give you some background. My sister is 5 years older than me, making her 26 (since I turn 21 in October and her birthday was in March). She’s been with her fiance since the 8th grade. That’s an extremely long time. Our family (meaning my dad’s side, we don’t have the same mom) does not care for him at all. Heck, even my mom doesn’t like him! So when they broke up a couple years back, unfortunately, we were all pretty excited. We were hoping she would move on and find someone else. But they got back together, to just about everyone’s displeasure.

My sister’s fiance is such a bore. Seriously, a blank piece of paper has more character than this guy. He’s unenthused, he’s lazy, he’s rude, he’s not ambitious, the list goes on and on. He’s disrespected my dad on several occasions, in which my dad was probably on the brink of killing him. He’s a moocher with no goals. He’s just…not husband material. They recently bought a house together, and he basically asked my dad to do most of the repairs (not help) because he didn’t know how to do anything. He even admitted he didn’t know how to paint! This guy…anyways.

Like I said, they’ve been engaged for at least a year now. So she’s had plenty of time to plan. When I tell you guys that my sister has been the ultimate procrastinator, it’s not a hyperbole. I got my dress in March. I knew just as much about the wedding back in March as I do today, 18 days from the date! All I know is that her wedding is supposed to be on Sunday, September 25 in Long Beach. I have no idea what time. I have no idea what venue. I don’t know anything! When I spoke to my dad, he knows just as much as I do.

She sent these save the date cards…you can’t even call them cards. They were printed on the most ridiculous paper ever. It was truly a waste of ink and her postage. I don’t mean to be mean or rude, but honestly, I would’ve preferred a Facebook invite over those. The fact that she sent them 2 months ago baffles me even more. Save the dates are supposed to go out 6-9 months before the wedding, not 2. Nobody has invites yet! Those are supposed to go out 3 months before the wedding at the latest. She said she was going to hand deliver them instead to save on postage. Um hello? Do you not see gas prices when you go outside?

She’s a terrible communicator. She’s expressed to myself and the other bridesmaids that she would not help financially. Now keep in mind, I’m her sister, and she insisted I be a bridesmaid. She knows I was laid off. Doesn’t matter to her. I still had to pay for my own dress. And she insists that we all pay her $40 for the jewelry she selected for her. EXCUSE ME?! This is the same chick who has shopped in my closet for formal dresses that she has yet to return. I’m so over her.

Anyways, no one knows what’s going on, if anything at all. I’ve seen her a couple of weeks ago, and no additional word. We’re less than 3 weeks away with no information. My mom said she’s not even going to bother requesting the day off, since no one knows anything. Honestly, I prefer she just do a courthouse wedding and call it a day. Since we’re so out the loop, I think she has cold feet. Or maybe he does. Whoever it is, I wish they’d just say something.

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7 Responses to Wedding Wednesday: Does My Sister Have Cold Feet?

  1. Good Grief!  This is quite a story.  I suppose you just sit back and wait now!  Please keep us posted as it is going to be interesting.

  2. I hate to say this, but I think your sister might be having a personal crisis. I think she is afraid to discover who she is as an individual… I hope you guys get answers and as for the wedding expenses, I’d sit down with her and tell her that you want her to have her special day… but you have a husband to think about, groceries to put on the table, and a roof to keep over your heads.

    I’d remind her that getting married isn’t about one day, but about deciding to put another persons wants and needs ahead of your own. Remind her that your in a partnership now and that $40 on jewelry isn’t something you can do on top of everything you have done already for her… and feel okay about what that will do to your partner.  

    • We finally got some answers and looks like the wedding is on. No explanation as to why it took her so long but now she’s rushing through things. I definitely will be talking to her if she still expects the money, because we have to pick and choose what we’re paying for.

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