Could your marriage use two days off?
The question came to mind after watching Sex and the City 2 for the hundredth time. Have you seen the movie? If you haven’t, here’s the scenario.
Carrie and Big have been married only two years yet the old married couple feeling has set in. The sparkle is gone. Big has turned into TV & Take Out guy while Carrie still wants to dine out and paint the town red. According to Carrie, the TV watching and ordering in is too Mr. and Mrs. Married. In one conversation, Carrie says to Big, its just going to be you and me for the rest of our lives. We are going to have to work on the sparkle for the rest of our lives.
Me and You – Just Us Two
The conversation deepened on their anniversary. Carrie gave Big a very nice vintage watch engraved with a sentimental message that said, “Me and you, just us two” and he gave her a flat screen TV. I LOL when I saw that scene because it reminded me of my mother who used to say, I can’t wear the house on my back which meant, give her gifts for her; a scarf, a piece of jewelry not a toaster. She is not the house.
Lying In Bed – Not Talking
Carrie didn’t like the TV. She said to Big, a piece of jewelry would’ve been nice. He envisioned them lying in bed at night watching old black and white movies then falling asleep. Carrie wanted nothing to do with that. She said, I don’t want to be one of those married couples lying in bed and not talking. That is not the relationship I signed up for.
The next day, Carrie went to her old apartment to finish up an article for Vogue magazine. She decided to stay there for two days to bang it out. She needed to lock herself away and not think about anything but writing. At the end of day two, Big surprised her and picked her up for dinner just like old times. The evening was magical and ended with a night of no TV. Use your imagination…
I Miss You
Two days apart gave them a chance to miss each other and reignite the sparkle. Big liked the idea so much that he wanted two days off as well; to lie around, watch TV and do all the things that bug Carrie. Carrie didn’t like his idea. She said, I don’t need two days off every week. Marriage doesn’t work like that. Big says, I thought we’re supposed to be making up our own rules. We’re adults, with no children. We have the luxury to design our life.
2 Days Off?
She discussed it with her girls and Charlotte said,
two days off? You make marriage sound like a job. Marriage is two people night after night sleeping in the same bed. Doesn’t it hurt your feelings that he would want time off?
So here’s my question to all the married people in the room…How does marriage work? Would it hurt your feelings if your spouse wanted two days off? Could your marriage benefit from two days off? Does marriage work like that? Does “sparkle” matter or is that just something in the movies? Tell me…I’m unmarried.