As I mentioned to you before, I adopted a puppy named Frankie, an adorable little guy who was found in a box on some railroad tracks. He’s been with us a week today and he’s hilarious. He likes cat toys (although he still likes his dog stuff too), loves to eat his dog food, and is the cutest thing when he’s napping. He’s finally 8 weeks old, which is really the right time to take a dog away from his mother but he was taken from her much earlier than that. I attribute much of his behavioral issue to that but I’m being honest: my dog is interfering with my marriage.
Today also marks 1 month since I got married. However, this past week has been a strain. Frankie has been driving me crazy. He’s definitely playful and lovable. He has a bit of a foot fetish because he loves licking my feet, and takes his anger out on his doggie bed. He’s been quite a handful though. Our 2 story townhouse is probably a bit overwhelming to him, and we try not to give him access to too many things. He dives under our couch and tries to hop up on the fireplace. I’m not too upset with the lack of potty training (he’ll pee on his pads 50% of the time, and refuses to poop on them), but he’s a lot to work with.
Whenever I’m on the computer and he’s up on the couch, he steps all over the MacBook and bites it. He likes shoes, and I try to tell my husband to stop leaving his shoes on the ground because Frankie will get to them. Our house has carpet and Frankie finds where there may be frayed edges and bites on those. He bites and scratches, even if you tell him “no” or “stop”. Oh, and crating him is a nightmare. I crate him if I leave the house and he goes absolutely bonkers. He not only cries, but screams, louder than I’ve heard any dog scream before. Same when he’s crated to go to bed, even though that’s getting a little better.
I use a spray water bottle to discipline him and it’s a temporary solution. He runs right where you’re walking, so I’ve accidentally kicked him several times because he ends up being right where my foot is going. He barks and is aggressive when I ask him to calm down. He doesn’t allow me to get much work done (because most of my work is on the computer) and sleeping is obviously interrupted by taking him to use the bathroom.
I love this dog; he’s a sweet puppy but he’s mischievous and difficult too. Hubby’s been on 1st shift (6am-2pm) this past week, and has refused to sleep with Frankie around. I’ve slept on the couch 2 nights in a row, and hubby slept on his futon the other nights while I took the bed with Frankie’s cage next to me. He doesn’t help much because he’s either at work or sleep. I’ve been waking up at 5:30am-6am after broken sleep. It’s been really difficult.
Last week I had a breakdown and highly considered giving Frankie back. I’d hate to do that, and it’s not that I can’t give him attention and love, because I have, but I can’t do it at the expense of my work and my marriage. I’m trying to work with him, knowing he probably misses his mom and is still overwhelmed by the move, but I don’t know if I have the patience to let certain things go.
What’s your opinion? Should I keep working with Frankie and hope things get better, or should I find him another home in order to keep my marriage safe? What are some ways you dealt with your new puppy?