Chances are you’ll already know your in-laws quite well before you tie the knot. But after the wedding, the rules change. You’re part of the family now and no matter if you met on eHarmony or at university, you need to work a little bit harder to get in your in-law’s good books. Here are a few dos and don’ts to help the process along…
Do ask your partner for help
Your partner should be a constant source of tips for pleasing their parents – so make sure you use this to full advantage! This way you’ll cause delight with every gift and cook exactly the right food when they come to stay.
Do organise trips together
Going away on joint holidays is a great way to get to know your in-laws. Just a week away will see you bonding and getting to know each other a lot better.
Do be helpful
Make sure to be as useful as you possibly can be, especially when it comes to any kind of domestic chores. Offer to do the washing up, for example. See where help is needed and jump up eagerly every time you spot an opportunity. This is a very simple but effective way to gain approval.
Make sure to listen to all the concerns of your in-laws and try your best to help with them. It’s great to position yourself as someone they can confide in.
Don’t disregard house rules
If staying in your in-laws’ house, make sure you stick to their rules. That could be using a napkin at the table, or taking off your shoes at the entrance to the house. Disregarding these rules would be unwise and disrespectful.
Don’t forget to return the favor
Remember the favours paid to you by your in-laws and ensure you pay them back. This could be anything from a visit to an extravagant present to an invitation to dinner.
Don’t reveal inappropriate facts
Keep it clean. Don’t drop in inappropriate trivia such as your favourite sexual position. There are some things you just shouldn’t discuss with inlaws, no matter how well you know them.
With all of these tips to your armoury the inlaws should be putty in your hands, whether you met your partner not long ago on an online dating site in Leeds or have known them since you were a child.