I feel like I always have to start these posts out the same way. I am not pregnant. I just happen to have a fascination with becoming a parent, without making the premature plunge into such a drastic change in my life. Hubby and I are only a few weeks shy of our 1st anniversary of being married, so by no means are babies in the plan as of yet. You all know we have a lot of other things to worry about for now. But that doesn’t stop me from thinking about the next step: parenthood.
We were talking the other night about how we think we will change when we are expecting. I had the realization the other day that I will become a totally different person when I become a mom. I’ve always sort of been the baby in my family. With the exception of my little sister and my little cousin, I’ve been the one who was the youngest and catered to (read: spoiled). I’ve never let it get to my head though. But when you become a parent, things have to change.
Quite a few of my former classmates are now moms or dads. One of my former best friends recently became a mom, and I just think it’s such a drastic change. But not everyone makes those changes. Unfortunately, I’ve seen a lot of young ladies I went to school with who are doing this on their own. Where the fathers are, I don’t know, but I’m sure that wasn’t the plan. I only know 2 of them who are married out of the 2 dozen or so ladies I know who have children. I couldn’t imagine raising a child without the father there, but it’s happening.
Some people are still doing things that they were doing before they had children. They still go out to parties and clubs. They still hang around people who don’t add much value to their lives. Some of them don’t even have a job. That’s one of my main reasons I’m holding out on bringing another life into this world. Financially, it would be absolutely irresponsible to have a child with no means to support him or her.
I asked some of my followers how having a child changed them:
I could use some strength and confidence. I’m 21 now, but I don’t know if I’ll be ready when I’m 22.
Oh, how I love to sleep! Even though I can function without having much of it. I heard that it’s all about going to sleep when the baby does.
Selflessness! Babies certainly teach you that, seeing as how you have a life depending on you for their needs. What a feeling that must be.
I’m watching my baby shows on TLC, and I see the journey of becoming a mother. The pregnancy, the labor (oh Lord am I dreading that), and then the realization: you’re a parent! It changes dads just as it changes moms. I know hubby will make a great dad and it will change him for the better. I can’t wait to see that change in both of us.
I have quite a few things I’d like to accomplish before having a baby, and I know I probably beat this topic over and over, but what can I say? I can’t wait (but I will).
What age were you when you had your first child? How did it change you? Guess who that is in the photo.